Unless the lovable Filipina belongs to the marginally blessed who bump into her high school soul mate, wedded right after college, and spent the subsequent 5 decades in marital
bliss, she will suffer what millions before her have gone through, and what millions after her will live through - a broken heart. That includes you Pinoy guys!
bliss, she will suffer what millions before her have gone through, and what millions after her will live through - a broken heart. That includes you Pinoy guys!The pain during such breakup is as specific as the millions of Pinays (and Pinoys) who suffer it. Even as some Filipina girls plainly shudder the grime off and get right back into the dating game, others are dumped in distress that they never date again, frittering the rest of their life in solitary cynicism – the so called spinsters. Why so? Could some Pinays just be stronger than others? Do some Filipinas love harder than others? Are some loves more connected than others?
For a good number of these women who fall upon a break-up, a normal somber stage will come about: Denial and Isolation, Rage, Bargaining, Misery, and finally Acceptance. But for some, the grief and wreckage are so terrible that they end up hospitalized, and even
desperate. Others remain either bitter or so afraid of getting hurt that they never date again, sealing off their hearts to just about everyone. Yet, some don't even lament at all, subconsciously opting to simply transfer their feelings for one person right away onto that of another person in what is called a rebound relationship. A number of the ladies (and gentlemen) find that venting or journaling is the only thing that helps them let loose of the pain and eventually comprehend their broken heart. Most of the variations have something to do with their (or our) loving style. There are many loving styles ranging from the very healthy, to the desperately wanting. While one woman may love another in a accommodating and healthy way, another one may cling onto her mate simply as a way to mend what she envisages to be wrong with herself. She exploits her partner as a scheme of dealing with her own imagined inadequacies or feelings of unworthiness - feeling good only as long as she’s in the relationship. Other Pinays simply like the 'high' of being in love. This high becomes addictive to them and they hop from one relationship instantly into another - often times head-over-heels in love by the second date. They recklessly seek 'love' m
uch as an addict will seek a 'fix', and are often so in need of being in love that they imagine their partners to have all the qualities they are looking for in a mate - whether their partners actually possess these qualities or not. Still others simply surrender themselves into their relationships quickly losing themselves and their own sense of individuality, becoming 'the relationship'. Should the relationship end, then shall they, too.A healthy and vigorous view of oneself, one's partner, and one's relationship is essential to surviving the ups and downs in our incessant rummage around for that exceptional someone to share our lives with.
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