Naked Pinay Views: July 2009

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The Comforting Words of a Filipina Mother

Watching circus acts wit

h your family one great opportunity to bond and enjoy life together. I still remember attending an international circus (Russian Circus) at the nearby city with my wife and first child. It was really one of a kind and an experience of a lifetime. I would occasionally carry my son on my shoulder so he could see the wonderful spectacular acts and I bet he was awed. My wife would frequently hold tightly on my arms with such a suspenseful thrill. It was really a nice experience.

As I remember, the final act of the evening was a guillotine-toting performer. He picked out a hesitant volunteer from the audience and majestically demonstrated the sharpness of the blade by swiftly chopping a cucumber. Then he locked the volunteer in the guillotine and exploited the tension with a lengthy torrent of jokes, asked the guy if he had any farewell message. While nearly everyone laughed, in front of me sat the volunteer’s wife and five-year-old son.

Not realizing that the guillotine act was a magic hoax, the boy was panic-stricken. He thought his father was going to be beheaded. His Filipina mom sat at his side and held him, constantly telling him, “It’s alright, Joey. Papa will be okay. Don’t worry.” While her words were well-intended and may have helped a bit, the child remained generally petrified. Finally the blade fell, phenomenally passing his Papa’s head without a nick, and the man was saved. Soon Joey stopped whining and the torment ended.

I doubt if Joey’s terror is different from our own fears as grown-ups. I believe that every experience springs from either love or fear, and we just need to comprehend that the source of love is real, and the source of fear is an illusion. If we can only realize truth in the face of illusion, our fears shall fritter away and we shall go back to the reassuring arms of reality.

During those grace moments, God’s voice seeks to remind us of the truth; our role is to listen to that voice and have faith in it. In this circus of life, when something scary shows up, it spits right in our face. Someone we care for might run off, or a bill beyond our capacity to pay ma

y be handed to us, or we may pick up a tabloid and read of tragedies, calamities and diseases we never heard of. We get terrified and go frantic (at least inside). Is this really any different than the child helplessly watching his father in a stage guillotine? Meanwhile a woman’s comforting voice whispers in our ear, “It’s okay. Don’t worry. It will be alright.”

The mother’s voice is soft, yet expressive. We want to trust it, but the raging illusion before us is so blatant that it snatches our full awareness. The band’s drums have momentarily drowned out the guitar. So we ride out the experience and somehow emerge safe and sound. Only then do we realize that the manifestation of evil was a trick of the mind, and ultimately the voice of love was the one worth heeding. Welcome to the Magic Circus of Experience.

When you watch science fiction movies and you get carried away by the amazing visual effects, just wait you’re your till your buddy would elbow you and laugh out, “That’s so fake, it’s not real!” I wonder if those nasty movies were a training ground to face and deal with shoddy experiences in life. Finally we can look at just about any frightening experience and recognize that if we had remained calm and clear in the face of the ogres at our heels, we could have dealt them swiftly and gotten on with the joy of living. But when we’re in the midst of frightening illusions, that’s not so easy, for they seem real and larger than us. But they are not. If you mull over all the things that once frightened you, and what you learned after you overcome them, you will discover that you are undeniably bigger than anything you fear.

In the film version of Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, the grand wizard gathers the young wizards in training and pulls out the huge “buggert box” where all of the children’s secret fears reside. One by one he released the buggerts and coaches each child to point his or her wand at it, cry out, “Ridiculous!” and cackle. As each child does, the buggerts evaporate. They could not long stand in the face of the insurmountable combination of truth and happiness. Here, each of us clutches a frightened child within us, and right next to it sits a comforting mother reminding us that it’s just a trick of the mind. Then the game becomes less about running out of the theatre and more about laughing our buggerts to oblivion.

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Monday, July 27, 2009

Is It Harder to Find Love If You're Fat?

Finding the right man of her dreams is one hell of a search for a Filipina. The perfect boyfriend tends to be too elusive to catch. But mind you, overweight women might have an even harder time for it.

A study, which was conducted in New Zealand, suggests that while being overweight really has little or no bearing on a man in a relationship, chubby women have a great deal of lower-quality relationships. In addition to thinking that whomever they're going out with is probably going to dump them, they also find their partners less desirable and don't think their boyfriends think very highly of them. Well, that's incredibly depressing.

Obviously the stigma against fat in our society extends to dating. It’s uncertain that overweight women's low self-esteem has more bearing on the quality of their relationships than their waist-to-hip ratio. After all, if one doesn’t feel good about herself, she’s more likely to settle for someone who's not really that great himself.

What's more important to finding true love -- your load, or your outlook?

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Saturday, July 25, 2009

A Filipina student made me smile!

Ahh, I thought it would be one of those ordinary days and I would be just one of those working in the usual warm temperature in our school. Of course, I was one of those who would nag about the heat but would settle later. However, the warm character of the room seemed to have engrossed many students. Generally speaking, attendance in my class was high. So in about three hours, I had encountered the usual thirty five people. Frankly, I was sort of done in but I had to show a brilliant facade. I tried to wear a smile but it vanished once my mind focused on the essentials during that day. My heart wanted to keep smiling but my facial muscles were saggy.

Then I had the class card of a Filipina student before me and I went straight to her concerns barely remembering to look at her in the face. I had little strength for pleasantries - just get on with the job and

finish with it. Or maybe she’s too beautiful to disappoint. Then out of the blue the lady requested me to smile. At first I ignored her. Instead my mind was wondering why she would go beyond the professional curb between us and ask me to do such a personal thing as smile. But even then, I was too exhausted to brood over its ambiguity. I was going to use the little vigor I had left to finish the session. I went back to saying what I was saying - something about the value of right and timely approach. But then the girl, ah yes, the lady repeated herself. Again, I tried to pretend not to hear her but deep within I knew she was right and she had caught me off-guard. How could I tell her that I was trying to smile as much as possible and that she had caught me in an unusual moment when over thirty different students, with different needs and concerns to deal with, have almost sapped me of my resolve to always smile?

Like she had planned it out, the young woman started participating dynamically before the whole class and I t

hought I was off the hook but then midway in her response to the issues raised; she went back to the smile topic. I thought the stares of everyone in the room were all for me. I wanted to step in and give such responses like “Look Miss, I have been teaching all day, and I am through with your hanky-panky. I’ll smile if I want to and spontaneously.” At first I thought that looking directly on her eyes would melt her so I could return the assault. However, the bright sincerity of her pretty face overwhelmed any sting of stare that I could throw. I changed my focus at the center of the class showing control of myself and the situation. Actually I didn’t see anyone; her whole face engulfed my view. Then I recalled an old adage of loving whatever I do so I could be the best I can. I remembered that I have always said to myself that anytime I was tempted to complain about a task or job, then I am through with that task or job and should seek something else to do. Just in that moment, my ego gave way to the realization that beneath my professional drape is a human being who could be fallible. I knew she was right.

Without forcing it, I found myself conceding and smiling. Whether it was at her, at her statement, or at myself, I wasn’t sure but her face lit up and I found myself saying in a nice way – “are you happy now?” Her smile broadened and she gladly said, “Yes I am.” I knew she meant it and I also realized then that the smile meant a lot to her. Interestingly, I was happy about it too. I looked up and realized that many others in the room have been observing what was going on. As my face turned at them, they were all smiling in return. I moved on with the discussion, happy that I did not make a fool of myself before all those observers. But beyond that I realized how good I felt and how much strength I had gained by that momentary experience. It overcame my exhaustion and filled me with a lightness that took me through the rest of the day. What a day!

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Thursday, July 23, 2009

The four commandments of fashion

Filipina girls always try their best to look real good, better perhaps. The mall displays catch them adoring certain brands and mimicking certain styles. Pinay women also get caught on the fashion frenzy. I tell you, stares follow ladies who dress strikingly. Some get struck, some say ‘wow’, others get mesmerized, and still others pat their foreheads.

Well, some Pinay women sometimes get confused with how to dress themselves better. Here are some points for you dear Pinays if you really love beauty. There are actually no hard-and-fast rules of fashion but most style experts agree on a few essential principles no matter how inexpensive and tacky your clothes are. Actually, these are the four commandments of the fashion Bible:

1. Always Look Neat and Clean. Except for some special occasion, it's best to keep your jeans unframed, your shirt unstained and your shoes unscuffed. Grime is passé, so live with it. Take good care of your clothes and make sure you follow the right directions .Polish your boots. De-fuzz your sweaters. Even if you can't make yourself into the world's most gentle dresser, you can always improve your appearance by looking well-kept.

2. Don't Overdo Trends. Even if leopard print is "in." In an effort to look oh-so chic, you go out and buy a hat, blouse, skirt, bag and shoes-all in leopard print. Bad move actually. It is common sense. No one would love to do like that. Similarly, don't saturate your wardrobe with any single style or silhouette. So moderation is more important to us.

3. Keep Ultra-Bright Colors Away From the Face No matter what your skin tone looks like, you will not look good in a bright green sweater. No one is perfect so do not trust that you will look still pretty with every kinds of pattern and color. To choose what really fit you and ignore something all of people think ugly. That is simply wise choice.

4. Ignore Lame Clichés. You may often hear about something like "Make sure your shoes match your bag." or "Never pair stripes with plaid." Well, we're here to say that it's all a bunch of hogwash. In today's fashion trend the hardest thing is to be creative and open to new ideas. If this means ignoring old adages and overstepping traditional bounds, so be it.

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12 THINGS A FILIPINA SHOULDN’T DO

Often times the friendly Filipina stands at the threshold of womanhood. Asian by spirit and culture, her real essence is constantly confronted and her real strength is continuously challenged. Now is the time for her to act and be what she really is.

Here are 12 things she should not consider doing:

To let anyone tell her who she is.
To let anyone tell her, she will not make a decent woman.
To be someone she’s not.
To let others judge her, because she cannot be judged unless she lets them.
To let words make her. Instead she makes the words.
To be ashamed of who she is.
To let public opinion sway her into thinking what she is doing is wrong.
To think he has failed. She can only fail if she stops trying.
To give into her fears. They will kill her dreams and keep her from her happiness.
To rush into a life changing situation, unless she is sure that is what she wants to do.
To be a man because people expect that of her. She should always be the woman she is and always have been.
To be embarrassed by emotions - They are a woman's soul and a woman's strength.

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Sunday, July 19, 2009

Sharing a Bed with Someone is Good for Pinays

Filipinas can now take some lull on their gripes regarding sleep disturbance when they’re with their partners. Had they known that men’s situation has been even worse, they would be grateful for the advantage. For the typical Pinay, who needs to feel in safe hands when things go bump in the night, having him close by helps with that. That does not mean that she does not appreciate the distance that a king size bed offers, but still, she wants him within arm’s reach. But what is really the score?

Conjectures about male folly go as far back to Adam and Eve. Now “brain drain” due to bed-sharing has been identified as a cause of diminished cognitive function in men. “We weren’t meant to share beds. Sex and sleeping together is a modern phenomenon, ” said researchers who developed the study. The syndrome appears to affect men far more than women, as women appear to be programmed to cope with sleep disruption better than men.

The study did show that sex appeared to perk up male listening skills. “At least the men appeared to be listening after sex, but maybe they were finally able to get some sleep,” said the researchers. When men spend the night with a bed mate, their sleep is disturbed. Whether they make love or not, and the sleep disturbance impairs their mental ability the next day because their lack of sleep increases their stress hormone levels.

According to the New Scientist study, women who share a bed fare better because they sleep more deeply. Both sexes had a more disturbed night's sleep when they shared their bed. But women apparently managed to sleep more deeply when they did eventually drop off, since they claimed to be more refreshed than their sleep time suggested. Their stress hormone levels and mental scores did not suffer to the same extent as the men.

Dr Neil Stanley, a sleep expert at the University of Surrey, said: “It's not surprising that people are disturbed by sleeping together. Historically, we have never been meant to sleep in the same bed as each other. It is a bizarre thing to do. Sleep is the most selfish thing you can do and it's vital for good physical and mental health. Sharing the bed space with someone who is making noises and who you have to fight with for the duvet is not sensible. If you are happy sleeping together that's great, but if not, there is no shame in separate beds.” And then he said there was a suggestion that women are pre-programmed to cope better with broken sleep. Women experience a lot of life events that disturb their sleep - bringing up children, the menopause and even the menstrual cycle.

But people did get used to sharing a bed. If they have shared their bed with their partner for a long time they miss them and that will disturb sleep. There is somebody for everybody. But, lots of couples have separate sleeping arrangements and it works just fine for them. I don’t think you should let a little quirk like that spell the end of your hopes for a lifelong relationship. We all have quirks, Pinays have too. It so happened that generally, women get the upperhand.

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Thursday, July 16, 2009

Celebrating Women's Real Beauty

I have observed Filipina women of all sizes and clothing preferences. When it

comes to that gutsy attitude of projecting herself, the strong Pinay holds her own records of surprises and expectations which is no different with what Dawn McIntyre narrates in her article below:

Every day, I strive to live my life guided by my soul, to face the world with an open heart and an open mind, to see and celebrate the beauty in everyone and everything. But something I spotted on the internet this week was so ugly; it completely shook me out of my soul space to the point where I feel it must be explored here.

A few days ago, nearly every major news website or TV entertainment show chose to cover what they viewed as a shocking and newsworthy event.

That event was singer, TV and movie star Jessica Simpson on stage at a chili cook-off -- wearing a pair of so-called "Mom Jeans."

These reports were totally and completely focused on the fact that a beautiful young woman has, as she has grown older and neared her thirties, gained a few pounds. And that she chose to perform for the public wearing a pair of pants that failed to mask this fact.

As an expert in building self esteem and helping women discover their inner beauty, I was, understandably, distressed by the attention this non-event has received in the media. Instead of forcing herself to conform to someone else's standard of beauty, Jessica Simpson chose not to hide her new body, but to share it and celebrate it, no doubt providing self esteem help to the women and girls who saw her perform. After all, if this normal-looking body

could be viewed as beautiful, so can other bodies in all shapes and sizes.

But instead of celebrating along with Jessica, the media chose to rake her over the coals for abandoning - at least for now - her quest to maintain the cookie-cutter, size-zero body favored by Hollywood celebrities. What kind of self image message does that send to normal women, who lack the access to personal trainers, personal chefs, plastic surgeons and all manner of artificial enhancements that enable this beauty myth to live on?

It is time for women - and their sons, fathers, husbands, brothers and friends, to reject this false standard of beauty and embrace the New10 Paradigm. It is time for all women - in all sizes, shapes, races and colors - to be celebrated for their unique, individual beauty, both outside and in.

Luckily, this past Sunday, my faith in humanity was restored, at least a little bit. There on stage at the Super Bowl was Jennifer Hudson, an award-winning actress and singer who has never been a Size Zero. As Jennifer took the stage to sing America's national anthem - her first appearance since a horrible tragedy shattered her family a few months ago - th

e media raved about how beautiful she looked. They raved about her outfit. They raved about her poise. And they didn't mention a word about her size.

When it came to Jennifer Hudson, the media finally got it. They saw the beauty of her heart. They saw the beauty of her soul. And yes, they saw that physical beauty can come in all shapes and sizes.

Now if they can just learn to apply that same standard to Jessica Simpson - and all the rest of the beautiful, soulful, loving, REAL women out there - we'd really be getting somewhere.

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Sunday, July 12, 2009

Know Thy Own Scent

An unexpected comment was made by one TESDA director on the graduation rites of hundreds of technical-vocational trainees in a certain training institution in the Philippines. He said that one outstanding quality of Filipino workers that set them apart in the world is that they smell good. It sounds funny really, but for Filipina ladies, it is really essential to understand thy own sc

ent because it sets them apart and makes them so likeable.

Generally for men, women, Filipinos or foreigners, it is really good to realize and recognize how your body smells as it will affect the your social standing, your acceptability , the strength of your personality, and the type of perfume you choose, or amount of particular perfume oil you add while making your own perfume.

The body and skin of each person has a peculiar smell - analogous to a fingerprint, voice check or a model of your DNA. It is scientifically verified that our qualms, hopes, necessities, our dietary preferences, our health, our ability to judge and liberate, are greatly influenced by the scent of our body. There are several fascinating stories about how detectives and spies were able to trace out the thieves by their body odor. It has also been stated by various researchers that the scent of our body has a profound impact upon our brain. When we go out to buy a perfume, or select any aromatic oils, we consciously or innocently choose those fragrances which are acceptable and can easily incorporate with the smell of our skin. The oil or perfume you put on your skin mixes with the smell your body and skin and creates a new fragrance.

If you understand the smell of your body correctly, and purchase and use perfumes suitably, it will have an encouraging effect in your personal and professional life. You will be more vigorous and optimistic in your life.

The best approach for verifying the nature of your own smell is to not take a shower following your workout and don't rinse your hair or sprits on body spray. Give yourself at least two hours and write down what you felt about your own smell, then again after taking a bath to "feel" the smell, and to see the difference in smell. This will help you determine the exact smell of your body. Once you ignore all the artificial smells you put on your body, you will sense the exact smell of your body. Once you recognize the smell of your body, switch over to the fragrance of different perfumes, try them one by one or select any one at random, and use it to see how your body responds to it; if both the smell of skin and the perfume is blending properly then this perfume is correct for your skin. It is also fine if you take three to four different fragrances, before selecting the best, as it may help you in making your final choice.

Remember, your presence is important for you as well as others. Do not forget that it is really essential to smell good and smell correct. Once you know about the nature of the scent of your body, you should go for the smell of the perfume accordingly, as it not only affects your mind and nature, but also affects other's mode as well. So in order to have right perfume, you should rightly know thy scent.

Most perfumes have a three-part smell, which unfolds after you apply it to your skin. You smell top notes within the first 15 minutes of applying. These chemicals first evaporate off your skin. Designers often put weird, unpleasant or spicy smells in this phase so that they interest you but don't hang around long enough to offend. Heart notes appear after 3 to 4 hours. The chemicals creating these smells evaporate more slowly from your skin. They're probably what you remember about the perfume; if it's a floral perfume, flowery smells go here. Base notes stick stubbornly to your skin. You smell them within 5 to 8 hours of application Musky, watery, mossy and woody chemicals often go in the base. By the way the word note is just perfume jargon for an individual smell.

Knowing that perfumes smell by evaporating, you can take better care in applying them. When applying, spread the perfume, but don't rub it in vigorously, because the heat you create will evaporate the top notes and weaken the overall smell.

Your temperature and oiliness seem most important. The top notes will evaporate faster from warm and dry skin than cool and oily skin. Otherwise, by the time the heart notes emerge, the perfume smells the same on everyone.

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Thursday, July 9, 2009

The Filipina: Baring her Essentials

There are lots of testimonials and statements about the nature of Filipino women (Filipinas or Pinays as they are called). Most of these, however, imply the Pinays’ sexual prominence to males, especially foreigners. Some Filipinos keep on pushing the impression that Pinays are generally for delight and companionship. So when a foreigner turns up on Philippine soil, the usual question asked is: How do you find our women or girls? What a sad image to project.

Actually, the awesome Filipina are known over the world for their sweetness, kindness and intelligence, not to mention their stunning beauty and strength. Their long black hair, smooth tanned skin and charming disposition never fail to capture the hearts of men. But I would like to believe that aside from these delightful attributes, the spirituality and depth of the strong Pinay is the oozing aura that mesmerizes men all over the world.

What the world doesn’t realize is that, the Filipina’s uncomplicated attitude towards partnership is initially a renunciation for the family’s welfare which eventually nurtures into loyalty and affection. The Filipina knows very well that love means service and devotion which is unparalleled all over the world. The material rewards are not meant for personal gains but more for her folks and kin. When she loves, she loves more.

Being devout Christians, The Filipinas' faith in God always comes first. They don’t easily give up and that unswerving hope could hold affairs on solid ground. They are serious about relationships. Unlike western women, Filipinas are not so keen on playing around or having casual contacts. Most Pinays would rather wait for the right man to come along rather than have flings just to have somebody around. This means that if you want to pursue having a relationship with a Filipina, you must be serious about it and forget about the idea of scoring a casual thing.

It’s true, they are really delightful companions in life, heaven-sent so to say. But that’s because her spirituality holds her physical fiber so beautifully woven that it transcends the physical desire into holistic admiration. Her family, friends, acquaintances should know…

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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Filipina in Naked Parfum

The lovely Filipina considers perfumes as much a part of her fashion style as the accessories she prefers. Just like her fashion choices, the fragrance she chooses says a lot about her personality. Designer fragrances are like designer handbags, with different styles for the day and night, summer and rainy days. This sweet Pinay’s perfume can say a lot about her mood. Here are some points to bear in mind regarding scents and perfumes, The mind-body connection is most obvious in our sense of smell. A fine fragrance has the potential to invigorate you with its affluent or subtle scents. It has the power to define your persona and effectively transmit your significance to the world. If you're in a corporate set-up, it would be practical to pick a

perfume that has a crisp, light and pleasant fragrance. If you’re attending a wedding or an important event, based on your feelings, your perfume can be rich and spicy, sweet and fresh or even have a touch of mystery and allure. The differences between a man and women are never more pronounced than when perfumes are concerned. Women go for delicate floral scents, while men go for more pungent and outdoorsy ones - emphasizing nature in all its ruggedness. The fiery aroma of musk for instance, will definitely feature in a male perfume, as will the fresh, light earthy scent of pine-cones. The fruity fragrance of

jasmine, the sweet, heady sophistication of pure rose - these have been scents that define a woman, or more particularly the classy strong Pinay. Most Filipina students and working girls exude such captivating whiff that appeal to cultured men and the elegant at heart.

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Friday, July 3, 2009

Filipinas Naked Secrets on Dating

Just like any other woman or girl, the Filipina has some of the most wanted secrets that could cart her man, local or foreign. She could look innocent, or naïve at a glance. Men think they could simply make a pass on her but she could finally mesmerize her. She knows how to date her guy’s heart to her bossom…ohh! where else would he dream fall? These are some of her secrets on dating with the guys she also pursues discreetly. Pinay ladies, take these advice. Men beware!

The Desire: To Shine
Maybe he's cocky, but he's still insecure. Trust us, guys need to know that they're respected and appreciated. When being around you increases a guy's esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he'll naturally want to be attached to you.

Here, things that show your high value and nudge him toward love.

Make him happier
Laugh when one of you loses balance during an intimate moment. Go to stupid movies. Drag him out when he's crabby. If you can keep things light, even during stressful times, you'll become indispensable.

Be a social butterfly
Guys are good at left-brain stuff, like sales and sports, but can get awkward when it comes to social graces. Take the lead and charm the people you meet and he'll be extra grateful to have you. But he may take credit for making those new friends... whatever.

Play mind games
Activities that require mental prowess -- like Scrabble, puzzles, and chess -- can prod his passion. It sounds nuts, but proof of your problem-solving abilities subconsciously shows him you're a desirable choice for carrying on his genes.

Act like the grand prize
Seeing you through other people's eyes reminds him how special you are. Invite him to an event where you'll excel (whether it's karaoke or a fun run), or have him stand between you and another man you think is getting too close at a bar.

The Desire: Comfort
Falling in love is a process of developing attachment, which happens when oxytocin floods the brain. You can unleash those love hormones by making him feel like you two just "fit." When he's so comfortable with you that he stops thinking about your relationship and simply enjoys it, he'll find himself nudged into love territory.

Let him see you primp
Grooming in front of him enhances intimacy because it's something other guys don't get to witness. Just keep it goddesslike (applying lipstick or powder), not gross (bleaching your moustache).

Cook together
Being around food spikes oxytocin levels in males. The more often you prep dinner a deux, the more he'll associate you with the good feelings he gets from eating it.

Stock your pad
When buying groceries you don't have a preference on, get a brand he uses. He'll subconsciously feel at home at your place. Catnap near him or let yourself doze off in his arms so he sees you in your most trusting, completely relaxed state.

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When a Pinay’s Love Ends

Unless the lovable Filipina belongs to the marginally blessed who bump into her high school soul mate, wedded right after college, and spent the subsequent 5 decades in marital

bliss, she will suffer what millions before her have gone through, and what millions after her will live through - a broken heart. That includes you Pinoy guys!

The pain during such breakup is as specific as the millions of Pinays (and Pinoys) who suffer it. Even as some Filipina girls plainly shudder the grime off and get right back into the dating game, others are dumped in distress that they never date again, frittering the rest of their life in solitary cynicism – the so called spinsters. Why so? Could some Pinays just be stronger than others? Do some Filipinas love harder than others? Are some loves more connected than others?

For a good number of these women who fall upon a break-up, a normal somber stage will come about: Denial and Isolation, Rage, Bargaining, Misery, and finally Acceptance. But for some, the grief and wreckage are so terrible that they end up hospitalized, and even

desperate. Others remain either bitter or so afraid of getting hurt that they never date again, sealing off their hearts to just about everyone. Yet, some don't even lament at all, subconsciously opting to simply transfer their feelings for one person right away onto that of another person in what is called a rebound relationship. A number of the ladies (and gentlemen) find that venting or journaling is the only thing that helps them let loose of the pain and eventually comprehend their broken heart.

Most of the variations have something to do with their (or our) loving style. There are many loving styles ranging from the very healthy, to the desperately wanting. While one woman may love another in a accommodating and healthy way, another one may cling onto her mate simply as a way to mend what she envisages to be wrong with herself. She exploits her partner as a scheme of dealing with her own imagined inadequacies or feelings of unworthiness - feeling good only as long as she’s in the relationship. Other Pinays simply like the 'high' of being in love. This high becomes addictive to them and they hop from one relationship instantly into another - often times head-over-heels in love by the second date. They recklessly seek 'love' m

uch as an addict will seek a 'fix', and are often so in need of being in love that they imagine their partners to have all the qualities they are looking for in a mate - whether their partners actually possess these qualities or not. Still others simply surrender themselves into their relationships quickly losing themselves and their own sense of individuality, becoming 'the relationship'. Should the relationship end, then shall they, too.

A healthy and vigorous view of oneself, one's partner, and one's relationship is essential to surviving the ups and downs in our incessant rummage around for that exceptional someone to share our lives with.

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Thursday, July 2, 2009

PINAYS REMAIN OR CHOOSE TO BE AT THE BOTTOM OF THE HEAP

Filipino women have been globally depicted as objects of desires. While men project them as very lovable and strong, Pinays are no exception to the global phenomenon on gender disparity. Here is what Dr. Webdy Stenberg-Tendys say about the global reality on women:

Equal opportunity for women has been around us for years, yet while many men may talk all the equality, the scales are definitely balanced against women. In the latest list of the world’s billionaires, women have a very low presence. Only two women are found at numbers 12 and 13, in the top 20.

Women continue to hold a very low position in the places of power. “Discrimination is changing at a snail’s pace and still needs to be challenged

“Women are paid less than men for the same work, if paid at all. Women remain vulnerable because they have no economic independence and are constantly threatened by exploitation, violence and abuse. If a woman is empowered, her children and family will be better off. ” Yet for every dollar spent on programs for women, $20 are given to programs for men.

Under cover of secrecy, the world’s most powerful and wealthiest people, came together in an unprecedented secret meeting, at Rockefeller University, in the home of the president of the Manhatton medical school, at the invitation of David Rockefeller Bill Gates and Warren Buffett.
“We came together to see if we could join together to do more to help, in the light of the world economic downturn,” said one of the attendees. “This group is very committed to philanthropy.” It was reported the agenda for the five hour afternoon/dinner meeting was to consider ways to use their considerable financial resources to come to the aid of people in the midst of financial crisis.

Those attending the meeting included such billionaire moguls as Michael Bloomberg, George Soros, Peter Petersen, Ted Turner and Eli Broad. All are well known for their philanthropic endeavours. However, it seems the only female billionaire to attend the secret meeting was Oprah Winfrey

Yet for all the advances women have made on the frontier of equality, they are still way behind the eight ball.

·Women amount to less than 1% of departmental heads, editors, media owners, yet they make up one third of working journalists
·80% of all purchasing decisions are taken by women
·Women perform 66% of the world’s work, yet they only receive 10% of world’s income
·Women have ownership of less than 1% of the assets of the world
·Universally women make up 42% of Internet users
·The 1 billion plus illiterate adults, who have no access to basic education, are comprised of 66% of women
Only 21% of all news subjects are on women

Finally – a piece of trivia: Women use 20,000 words a day, compared to 7,000 used by men.

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